एकदा पहावं करून

नमस्कार मंडळी,
आजचा माझा लेख माझ्या विवाहीत व विवाहेच्छूक मित्र मैत्रिणींसाठी आहे.
हो, हो...२१ नोव्हेंबर रोजी माझं गंगेत घोडं न्हालं. लग्नानंतर प्रथमच तुमच्या भेटीला येतोय.

'घर पहावं बांधून आणि लग्न पहावं करून', असं का म्हणतात हे उमगलं बुआ.

हॉल, मेनू, कपडा-लत्ता, फोटोग्राफर  सगळे धार काढून बसले असतात. 'नमस्कार' म्हणतात तेव्हा बहुतांश वेळेला, 'आला बकरा' म्हणत असावेत मनात. पण लगीनघाईची आपली एक वेगळीच मजा आहे. 'कशाला उगाचचा खर्च, आणि लग्न एकदाच होतं' यात माझ्यात आणि माझ्या प्रिय पत्नी पूजा मध्ये बऱ्याचदा वाद मिश्रित चर्चा झाल्या. मं आम्ही काय केलं? आम्ही केली तडजोड. तेव्हा समजलं लग्नाचं दुसरं नावच आहे 'तडजोड'.

धागा ताणल्याने तुटतो हे कळायला आम्हाला वेळ लागला नाही. या धाग्याला गैरसमजुतीचा गाठ बसू द्यायची नाही  हे आपण पक्कं ठरवूया. बाप्पाच्या कृपेने कार्य निर्विघन पार पडले आणि पूजा आमच्या घरी आली. दुधात साखर मिसळावी अशीती रुळली. विचार आला, किती कठीण असतं दुसऱ्याचा घराला आपलं म्हणणं. तिथल्या रीती, रिवाज पद्धतींना आपलास करणं . हि शक्ती निव्वळ स्त्री मधेच. तिला मान सम्मान आणी दर्जा देणं  हे आपलं माफक कर्तव्य.

आज सकाळीच आम्ही भांडलो ति वेगळी गोष्ट. भांडायचं ओठातून, प्रेम मात्र मनातून करायचं. चार कौतुकाचे शब्द आणि एखादं गिफ्ट, बस्स अजून काय हवं असतं. जमतील त्या सर्व इच्छा पूर्ण करून भरपूर जगण्याचा प्रयत्न करूया की .

लग्नाचं नातं थाटात जोडावा कि साधेपणाने हा ज्याचा त्याचा प्रश्न, पण कोणाचंही नातं कोर्टाच्या पायरीवर तुटू नये हीच ईश्वर चरणी प्रार्थना.
नसलेली चूक कधीतरी कबुल करावी, साथीदाराला वाद जिंकू द्यावा, आपण फक्त मन जिंकावं, निंदा करावी पण प्रेमाने...आणि हो सर्वात महत्वाचं म्हणजे विश्वास. नात्यात प्रेमाहून अधिक प्राधान्य विश्वासाला द्यावे असं मला वाटतं.

जाता जाता एक वैधानिक इशारा माझ्या अविवाहित मित्रांसाठी:
प्रेयसी जेव्हा बायको होते तेव्हा तिच्यात अमुलाग्र बदल होतो... चांगला कि वाईट??

हे जाणून घेण्यासाठी लग्नाचा लाडू अवश्य खा !!!

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I stopped cursing my job, when...

Hello Lovely People,
It's your homeboy 'Monday Blues' aka Nikhil here.

It's been a tense couple of weeks for our family as my 'Mother' and 'Would be Mother-in-law' both were admitted in the hospital at the same time for the same reason. Too much love, isn't it? 😒 Friends, no matter what, get a good Mediclaim for your entire family right now. Educate its necessity to others as well who waste no time in dismissing it.

However, these 2 weeks taught me a lot of the efforts that are put in by the hospital staff. Their management, their work ethics, their situational awareness. Hats-off to everyone right from Doctors to the Housekeeping staff. This brings us to the main reason for writing this post. Readers, how easily do we say that our job sucks, or our work life is boring, or how monotonous is our project work. It's time we open our eyes wide open and look at the work our fellow countrymen are doing. Most underrated jobs done by them are allowing us to sit in a comfortable environment and curse our jobs.

While we take pride in admitting our Grandpa in a posh hospital, the ward boy was busy cleaning his feces. Did we ever think of that guy who picks up a dead pigeon of the road early morning so that we can briskly do our morning walk. Have we spared a thought of the guy who cleans our city's drainage pipes so that we can flaunt 'Swachch Bharat' T-Shirts.

When we are foolishly spending money on the last rites of our loved ones, there is that guy who stays in the graveyard with the dead so that his family lives. Find sending daily work report hectic? Think of the Dr. who prepare a Post-mortem report. Thinking of hanging your boots because of so called stress, much lesser stress than the Hangman who hangs prisoners, right?

I don't think anyone of us have any damn right to complain our work-life as I believe we are definitely in a better environment than a mortuary, graveyard, drainage, or a garbage van. Next time when we face any of these 'Boss' individuals, you may or my not tip them, but lets make sure we say them a big  Thank You

Hey Dad, if you are listening...

Hello Lovely People,
It's your homeboy 'Dad's Dream' aka Nikhil here.

I don't know why, I don't know how but we have to admit, its Mom always, Dad sometimes for almost all of us. So I thought let me take this opportunity and celebrate the most underrated love in the world - Father's Love. I would hence like to share something about my Baba with you all.

I lost my father 6 years back, but, there hasn't been 1 week when he wasn't in my dreams. He is always there to help me in my lack of decision making ability. I am stubborn in calling someone wiser than me, that's how stupid I am. But, my father was 10 times intelligent than me (Yes, better looking too). History, World Geography, Current Affairs, Music, Maths any damn topic in the world, he had it covered. I remember, my Dad's friends used to come to our house to meet and thank him, as he used to assist them in their CA exams, when he himself couldn't pursue education further due to financial crisis then.

I would like to share a few special moments that I had with my father. I still hate travelling in Bus (for obvious reason), hence he used to hire an Auto to and fro, from our place in Dombivli up to my Aunt's place in Nerul, could you believe! I still remember, I had got 68/100 in Maths in Std 8th Sem I, he blasted me in the noon, but to make up, bought a 64 in 1 video game cassette in the evening as a surprise. My cycle got stolen from our society as I had not chained it in-spite of his several warnings. Two months later he said we are going to a Hotel, but took Me and Mom to a Cycle shop instead.

It was 3rd of March 2011, my Mom's Birthday was on the next day. In-spite of being bedridden, he called me secretly and asked if I had bought any surprise gift for my Mom. We both gifted her a Saree. His Birthday was on 26th of the same month, but he left us on 20th. Whenever I used to return home from office, a waiting father used to look into my eyes and give me a smile. That's the time, I miss him the most now. I could not fulfill his dream of a foreign trip and that scar will stay with me always.

Friends, trust me a Father does countless sacrifices for us. Only thing is, he doesn't express as much as our Mothers do. He is our ultimate safety net, our everyday hero. Let's all celebrate the unsung hero of our life. This father's day, don't just gift him a tie or wallet or cuff-links, take him out for a dinner, sit with him and have a chat, at least create a card for him (not everybody is a good Blogger 😉).

Lastly, don't be shy in saying, what he has been forever waiting to hear  'Dad, I love you'.

My father didn't tell me how to live.

He lived and let me watch him do it.

-C.B. Kelland

Now I know why Leo said, 'Climate change is real'

Hello Lovely People,
It's your homeboy 'Mr. Sweat' aka Nikhil here.

Are the rumors true, that a hen directly lays boiled egg these days., that solar heaters are unhappy with their boss's hot temper, that a 10₹ Dairy milk is sold for 300 as sizzling brownie by local grocers, that a girl broke up with her boy-friend coz he called her 'Hot'.

*Sweat Wiped*

Readers, the heat these days is intolerable, easily the most in last few decades(may be ever). Sitting in a room without AC, is my best Cardio workout these days. Even Facebook greets me like this:

I become a steamed Momo by the time I reach office. I even delete the mails with 'Warm' regards.
So who's responsible for this? We ladies and gentleman, WE.

I completely agree with Leonardo, I would have said the same thing had I got the Oscars 😉

We ain't any scientists, but we surely can do our small bits with big impact from our side.
A hypocritical ATM runs 3 ACs and tells us not to print and save environment. Turn off our PCs, Laptops, before leaving for the day. It's actually a no brainer, please turn off your car whilst at the signal or stuck in traffic. If we can't say no plastic immediately, let's at least buy intelligently. 1 Big bottle requires less energy and produces less waste as compared to 3 small bottles. I also heard that eating vegetarian meal can conserve energy. For the time being I'll ignore this particular point.

All these things are from a very broader perspective, what can we do immediately?

Drink plenty of fluids. If possible, place a pot filled with water outside your society for everyone to drink. A bowl of water at your window for birds would do no harm. Staying hydrated is the key, else it gets so dangerous that many people lose their lives due to sunstroke every year. We have been lucky that in our part of the world, we don't face extreme weather conditions barring last couple of years, it's alarming.

As if the heat in Mumbai wasn't enough for us, me and my friends would be travelling to Rajasthan in 10 days. It shouldn't be a lot different than Sun. Bye guys, see you next time with a tanned skin.

How do you please your Mother

Hello Lovely People,
It's your homeboy 'Mama's Boy' aka Nikhil here.

It's my Mom's 53rd 🎂 Birthday today and I'll do everything to make it special and memorable one. Cake and Balloons are on it's way. Let's see what more can I manage with my limited brains.

However, this Blog isn't about just my आई, it's about our Moms. So many people have written so much about Mothers and it all makes absolute sense. If you have your Mom, trust me you have everything else covered. Give it a Try, in any crisis just think that come what may, you have your Mom at home and see the problem is half vanished. There is only one person in this world that will never let you down and that's your Mother.

Your Father often get's that deserving respect, may be because he earns. What about Mother? A 24x7 thankless, penniless job in which ironically the work gets doubled on weekends. No gratuity, no PF, and no retirement either. Btw, stop calling her House-Wife, Home-Maker that's what she is. I heard Management lessons were given by our Mumbai Dabbawala's. I'm waiting when are our Home-Makers invited to teach their unmatchable managerial skills. Skills about not just managing time, money and efforts but our fuss, anger and stupidity too.

When it's only fair to stay indebted, what's that 'something' that we can do for her? First and foremost, wear a smile on your face always. That's the biggest gift you can give and that's all what she asks. Try and cook for her on the weekends, at least manage a cuppa. Get her name embossed on your house's nameplate. Buy her that favorite Kanjivaram, Paithani etc. and do not forget to praise her beauty in public. Ask her to take forced leaves by making her travel the world. Red Roses and Resto Dates are not just for your partner, that wrinkled face deserves a smile too. If she understood your silence as an infant, you must understand her fumbling lips too.

Least we can do is respect each and every Mother in the word. Readers, if you want to do something for your Mum, please do it NOW. Till we have our Mom, we don't value her enough, once she won't be with us, we won't value anything. Done reading? Go and give your Mother a tight hug, right now 👪

 ❤ you Mom

गणतंत्र दिन २०१७ पर चार पंक्तियाँ

गणतंत्र  दिन परेड

अफजल गुरु, मसूद अझर, हाफीज सईद

ये नाम सुनके खुन खौला होगा,
इन्हे जिंदा जलादो, यही दिल बोला होगा

सुनके अच्छा लगा के अबभी तुममें दम हैं,
शहीदो केलिए आँसू और मनमें गम हैं

लष्कर ए तोयबा, अल कायदा ये आतंकवादी संघटना,
मगर राजनैतिक पक्ष भी करते है उतनीही हानी और दुर्घटना

इन्सान और हिरन मारने पर कोई करता हैं यहा गुमान,
और हम चिखते हैं, कानून होता हैं सबके लिए समान

तेजाब फेंकनेंसे , बलात्कार करनेसे यहा कोई डरता नहीं,
इन्साफ मांगने जाओ, तो तारिख की सीवा कुछ मिलता नहीं

खून-पसीना एक करकेभी, आत्महत्या कर रहें हैं किसान और जवान ,
फिरभी नेताजी अपने झुठे भाषण मैं बोले, मेरा भारत महान

जनसंख्या वृद्धि की समस्या का हमे नहीं कोई ज्ञान,
आझादीके सत्तर साल बाद भी चला रहे है स्वच्छ भारत अभियान

ठग औरं गुंडे जहाँ शानसे लढतेहो जेल से चुनाव,
ऊस समाजमें जिसे बताना पडता हैं, बेटी बचाव

हर गली नुक्कड़ पे आपको हिन्दू मुस्लिम सिख मिलेगा,
बोहोत ढूँढा पर नजाने ये हिंदुस्तानी कहा मिलेगा

जो मरनेही आया था उस कसाब को मारकर खुश ना होना,
भुलना नहिये हमे मरे हुए बच्चे के माँ का रोना

मेरे भाई एक बात हमेशा याद रखना

सजा ए  मौत फाँसी तो दरिंदो के लिए बस एक दौर हैं,
क्योंकी हमारी मातृभूमी में अजमल कसाब कई और हैं

आप सभी को गणतंत्र दिनकी बधाई

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Can you solve the mystery of Sherlock Holmes?

Hello Lovely People,
It's your homeboy ' I'm SHERlocked ' aka Nikhil here.

Wish you all a very happy and happening new year 2017.
Share my Blog with 11 people and 2017 will bring you good news, ignore and nothing bad happens 😝

It's also the day, that marks the beginning of my favorite TV series Sherlock Holmes Season 04.

From the works of Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, the TV series -  Sherlock has been written and produced by Steven Mofatt and Mark Gatiss (who also plays the role of Sherlock's elder brother, Mycroft Holmes). So far, 3 seasons comprising of 3 episodes each and a special episode have been aired in the year 2010, 2012, 2014 and 2016  respectively. BBC One and BBC worldwide have broadcast all the episodes with a running time of 85 to 90 mins.

So, who is Sherlock Holmes? In his own words, 'A consulting detective, the only one in the world. I invented the job.' Now that's some introduction, isn't it? Along with his 'only' friend cum flatmate and assistant Dr.John Watson, Sherlock will mystify you with his out of the box puzzle solving.
Good for nothing, Inspector Greg Lestrade will bring a smile on your face even at the crime scene. Sherlock's eccentric behavior bothers all including his landlady Mrs. Hudson. Eccentric alright, but he ain't a psychopath, he is a high functioning sociopath. Don't you want to cherish the battle of wits between Holmes and his arch enemy Jim Moriarty?

The protagonists are played by Benedict Cumberbatch and Martin Freeman, and how well have they lived their characters. Their timing, their expressions, their dialogue delivery, they have taken the already famous fictional character to a new level altogether. The credit of 'Deduction' goes completely to the dialogue writer and he deserves a special applause. His situation awareness is impeccable.
The subtle humor, unexpected twists, the punchy one liners are the heart of this series.

Think about it, 10 episodes of around 90 mins each, so it's safe to say they have produced 10 fabulous movies consistently. IMDb rating of 9.2 must be enough to tell you how intriguing every frame of this TV series is. Watch it for first 15 mins and I won't have to ask you to complete all seasons. Let me know how you liked SH, as I gear up for S04E01 'The Six Thatchers', because its elementary my dear readers.

The name is Sherlock Holmes and the address is 221B Baker Street.

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